Women Who Know

It always amazes me how little some women understand about “game.” I mean, the things men say and do that are specifically designed to make women believe illusions over reality. Look, I’m a fan of men. I’m in a loving relationship. But, I grew up with older brothers who always taught me to keep an eye out for the stinky stuff (cow manure). They told me to pay attention to the things that people do, and much less to what they say. If it seems like a man is always talking, chances are, he’s not saying much.

Part One: YOUR EGO!

One of the biggest pitfalls for some women in relationships can be ego. They don’t realize that some men know to tell you what you want to hear, regardless of whether it’s true.

Examples:

1. He goes on and on and ON about how beautiful, fine, or ravishing you are (and little else). He makes you believe that everything he does for you is based on how a look at your face makes his heart skip a beat. Think about it, if your looks are truly enough to make this man submit to your every whim, what kind of dumb man is he? More likely than not, he knows you want to hear that you’re pretty–he knows that it makes you feel good. If you feel good, you’re more likely to do what he would like for you to do. Now, don’t get me wrong, sincere compliments are great from time to time. Every woman should be beautiful to her man. But, if he seems like he cares about little else, there’s a problem. Either you’re getting gamed, or he has REALLY low self-esteem.

2. He tells you he’s whipped! Listen, we know that men like sex. But, some men want for you to believe that sex with you is SO VASTLY DIFFERENT from sex with other women that it will make him do any and everything you want for him to. OK, some men are whipped. But, if a man is constantly TELLING you he is, he’s probably trying to gas your head up to distract you from something else–maybe his insecurity, maybe his infidelity…who knows. I’m not trying to demean your skills in any way; but, you’re not the only fish in the sea who knows how to…

3. He tells you you’re too good for him. OK. So, do you really want a man who feels inadequate? I wouldn’t. Still, some women love for men to tell them that they’re “too good” for them so that they can feel good about themselves. They play the “bad boy” role and let you play the role of the good girl who can save them from themselves. Be careful because you may end up being the girl who gives, gives, gives and rarely gets anything in return. He made you into his hero. Joke is on you.

The bottom line: Don’t deceive yourself into believing that on the basis of something almost entirely superficial, you are the best thing since sliced bread. Your ego can be the death of you because you will, as my grandmother would say, get too big for your britches. OK, I love myself. I think I’m great. But, my mother taught me never to believe my own hype. Insincere flattery is nothing to covet. It’s just nothingness. Don’t get gamed believing you’re something no woman truly is. Any woman can get left alone. I promise.